EXTREMELY selfish…
(705 views)Okay well i never used this before but i heard it’s a good way to get things out so ill do anything to help. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. The boyfriend i had before i even dated him passed away (he was also my best friend of 8 years) and my boyfriend now seems really really jealous about it. I don’t ever talk about chris (my boyfriend who passed away) only when he is brought up by someone else, i never bring him up myself and if i do i always tell george (my boyfriend now) that i know that it might be a weird situation for him sometimes, so i acknowledge that aspect.
Now with the selfishness… oh god. I’ve never ever ever ever in my life met someone as selfish as he is. EVERYTHING is about him and he’s so cheap he cant even buy me a 2 dollar taco at taco bell, but he can buy 200 dollar shoes. It’s literally ridiculous. I have a full time job, a part time job and im going to college full time, i work for everything i have and he doenst even have a job but hes in college and he gets money handed to him out the ass. If he just goes to visit his grandparents or aunts or uncles they give him like 400 dollars and he STILL cant even buy me something as much as like five dollars.
Also, i do EVERYTHING for him. im like his mother, i swear. I treat him extremely good but i put my foot down when i have to, i’ve never had this problem ever. i really can understand when i’m wrong and i can admit it but i am honestly not doing anything wrong when it comes to these things. I treat him so good, i do anything he needs and im there for him whenever he needs me but i cant seem to get the same thing back in return and its really frusturating. I know that he cares about me and i don’t expect a million page love letter or anything like that for him to prove it to me but SOMETHING would be nice to just remind me once in a while that he actually cares. oh yeh and not to mention about a few weeks ago he started talking to his ex girlfriend again for a week and he was talking to her about getting back together. when he told me this i freaked out on him (obviously), he cried his eyes out (which i never saw him cry ever) and i know he felt bad and i know that he’s sorry but i just cant seem to forgive him about it. we talked ffor a long time about it and i try to not to bring it up anymore but i constantly find myself during just random times of the day thinking about it and getting heated all over again.
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An anonymous user says:
By your post, it appears that you already know the answer to your question and are looking for people to just confirm it; I’ll be brief.
Relationships are give and take but yours is very one-sided. You THINK he cares, but based on what you wrote I don’t think he does. You’re not sharing a life together, you are blindly handing over yours.
The tears he used to manipulate you were not because he was afraid of losing you as his girlfriend, but you as his “mother”/caretaker/provider/source of sex.
Unless he is so good in bed that you don’t mind being treated like (or acting like) his mother, dump him without delay.
That’s not a boyfriend you are clinging onto; it’s an immature child who has no clue about what a relationship entails other than sex and your servitude. You can do better than that.
constantlyblue says:
I am in a very similar situation. I work and go to school full time, and I work extremely hard for my money. I do everything for my boyfriend. I get him anything he wants, and I do it all in an attempt to make him happy. He doesn’t go to school, but he works full time and makes much more than me. However, after getting him about a 600 dollar birthday present, all he got me was a hat and gloves. For Christmas, I spent maybe 300 on various things, and he just got me one DVD. We’ve been together for three years, and he is constantly asking me to get him money orders, to give him bus fare, to buy him food, or to buy him material things. I get nothing out of it. He is completely immature and entirely selfish. You definitely need to get out.
An anonymous user says:
OMG all men are pigs there is no hope for us women. All we do is slave over them!! Hoping and wishing for a good man!!