It’s really hard at first, but it will get better.  Just hang in there, keep doing the right thing, be a man and let it go.  I know it’s hard with the baby, but you may still be able to be part of the kid’s life later down the road.  For now, you need to just get out of that situation.  Believe me, it’s hard to see that when you’re in the middle of it.  But once you get away from it for a while, you’ll come to see that it’s best that way. 

There’s a better girl out there waiting for you - one without crazy parents.  Break your ties with this current relationship and go find that other girl that’s waiting for you and that you can be happy with for real.  It’s hard to see now, but she’s out there somewhere and you just need to start over with a clean slate and put your life back together with better people in it. 

Remember, even if it’s this current girl’s parents’ fault that all this crap is happening to you, this girl is still at fault because she’s letting it happen.  So no matter how great she seems, and how sorry you feel for her, she’s agreeing to let this happen and she doesn’t have your best interests in mind.  So you’re in a trap and you may not even realize it.  Get out before they drag you down with them.  You’ve tried your best to do the right thing, and you’ve done the best you can.  Now move on.  At the very least, get away from it for a few months.  Go meet other people and get away from this scene for a while.  Then you can make more rational and less emotional decisions about this situation.  You’re too in the middle of it right now to be able to see it clearly.  So get out of it and then take another look later from the outside.  You’ll be glad you did.

She takes yr car.
She has the cops come by & tells them some line about battery while she takes a bunch more stuff.
She calls & says she’s pregnant.
The whole thing is predicated on a bizarre story about an adult’s parents telling that adult she cannot see her grandmother [presumably yet another adult] if she doesnt leave her adult fiancé.

I dunno. It sounds just really–rotten. I’m not there, I dunno but–it doesnt sound good. & I have actually told someone else this before but it bears repeating:

When someone starts pulling out the race card, that’s ingrained. It’s almost impossible to change it or, at least, it’s impossible unless the person who says it is interested in changing his or her attitude.
Yet another one of those.

It may have been said by her parents, but theyre shoveling it hard. & she is not immune to the shovel’s contents.

The last thing I will say I dunno [there's many of these things, but here this is the last one] is what else they might be shoving into the shovel. NONE of it, however, sounds worth sitting thru its being poured on yr head.

Last thing–& it’s something I DO know, strangely:
People who are innocent of spousal abuse charges can, & do, get off. I know this cos I live w/ someone who went thru a too similar scenario to yrs. He’s got a horrible hot temper but is another one–he’s not gonna beat up a woman w/o serious physical provocation. I know. I’ve been w/ him a long time & I wouldnt allow it. I went thru it when I was a kid. No more for me.

He got the charges–not from me–he wasnt lying, he had a PD, the PD believed him, the judge believed the PD, no sentence. He drives me nuts, this guy w/ whom i’ve lived now for years, & he could beat the hell out of a guy–but he wouldnt beat the hell out a woman. I just cant see it.

What I can see is how weirdly manipulative has become too much of the world. I can hardly believe it cos the battery laws are necessary & are important to have–but they can be misused. Yr whole story sounds just awful. I hope it works out okay.

Questions:

1. Who owns the car? Did she take your car?
2. Did you beat her up? It sounds like you didn’t.
3. How old is she, that her parents tell her what to do & which other relatives she can see & she obeys this stuff without a fight?
4. She’s pregnant? All of a sudden?

Sounds like a manipulative family, a manipulated or manipulative {can’t tell} chick, some sort of rip-off where they added the cops to keep you down & now a potential pregnancy that may not exist or, if it does, may not be your fault, if you know what I mean & I bet you do.

FAIL.

Magic 8-Ball sez: Lotsa fish in the sea. Anyone who puts a restraining order on you for limited reason is not a real good person to re-cultivate. If your story checks, even if it checks in the main {like, 80%}, whatever is cooking over there sounds like it is boiling over your head & the other side doesnt intend to turn down the fire.

Turn it off yourself. For heaven’s sake, maybe you should write an email to “He cheated on me during my whole pregnancy” {a story or two below}. The world is so strange. It seems mostly divided into two groups: people who care about their spouses & people who don’t. It would be nice if everyone wore a name-tag that named the groups to which they belonged. Make life a lot easier.

The beating charges had probably been told to the officer before he showed up at your house. He could have just been an abject dick, but drunk you getting agressive didn’t help. I’m hoping the taser and 10 days taught you that lesson.

If you start getting juvenile about this, you’re only going to get stalker charges added into the mix. Happened to my brother, lawyers are expensive and it’s not a happy thing to have a record.
Going to jail for love is more testicles than brains, in my opinion.

As far as I can see, there’s only one way to maybe appease her parental unit. Call your mom and see if you can get her wedding ring. OR buy one. It may not have to be a diamond so big she can;t lift her hand. It doesn’t really have to be a diamond at all. A pretty gold ring with a heart shaped birthstone solitaire can do as well.

Have the ring sent to her, with return reciept and return postage paid. Add a simple, Marry me note. Not 12 pages of your most heartfelt feelings. You have 5 lines. Use them well. Or send a photo of you on one knee holding the ring up towards the camera. Text across the bottom of the photo ”I love you. I want to raise our child with you. Marry me!”

If you don’t wanna man up and marry her, get ready for the child support boogie.

PS. Drop the drinking. That’s not going to do much to endear you to parents that are upset enough to file false charges. I know, life is sucking hard. Get some sack and figure out a solution.

If the ring doesn’t work, you’re SOL, buddy. Cry into your pillow and do the time it takes to get over it. Once she’s had the baby, press for DNA to prove you are the father, then get your rights with that child. Yeah, yeah, You’re sure it’s yours. Be adult, follow the proper legal paths. It’s all about the paperwork and all they have on you right now is jail papers and a restraining order bc of deomestic violence. It’s like credit… and you’re in the hole right now.